Marriage After Baby

So many things change after you have a baby. Your body changes, your thought process changes, the amount of me time you have changes, the amount of sleep you get changes and yes, even your marriage changes. That once fun, freeing relationship when only the two of you mattered has now turned into diaper changes, making major decisions that effect another person, nights of zero sleep and irritable spouses because of the lack of sleep. So how do you get that fun part of your relationship back? Here's a few tips.

First, make sure you are both getting me time. If you both feel like you are getting time to yourselves you will be more relaxed and not as

irritable. You will be able to think more clearly and be more laid back instead of being tightly wound up. Try taking a few times a week for each of you, switching off baby duty. The plus to this is your baby gets to bond with both parents separately and gets their full attention which benefits your tiny person.

Second, be more forgiving of each other. It's easy to nit pick each other and hold grudges when you are in a constant state of exhaustion but remember you are both in this together and need to treat each other as equals. Try to focus on the positives of what your spouse is doing instead of the negatives.

Thirdly, don't give up intimacy! It's hard to find time and space to keep intimacy alive after a baby. Schedule time for just you two each week no matter how tired you are and follow through. Maybe it's when your baby is napping or a family member can babysit and give you and your spouse a much deserved break. Being close again will help keep your marriage alive instead of letting it burn out along with your energy.

Lastly, find fun things to do at home. My husband and I play darts or cards. Just simple things you can do at home that lets you spend some time together. Find something that allows your mind to stop working so hard for a few minutes and gives you guys something to laugh about. It's not always feesable to go out on a date so you have to get creative and find alternatives.

I hope some of these tips can help you feel like your marriage is still a fun and relaxing partnership full of love and laughs. Stay amazing my wonderful readers!